Finding out that your child is self-harming or has self-harmed in the past can be difficult information to process. As a parent, you might blame yourself for what your child is going through.
Here’s what Neil, one of the young people who shared their experience for No Harm Done, said about their family’s experience:
Parents who shared their stories for No Harm Done said that believing in yourself and having faith that you’re not a bad parent is important when your child is experiencing self-harm.
Remembering that ‘it’s not all about you’ can be hard, as mum Hannah reveals:
Communication is key
Young people and parents said that being open and communicating as a family is really important to a young person who is opening up about their experience of self-harm.
James, another parent who shared their experiences for No Harm Done, said:
Some families have even found that the experience of mental illness has helped to improve their relationships. Lucy, one of young people involved in No Harm Done said:
Many parents of children who have self-harmed say that others shouldn’t be afraid to ask for professional help if their child is speaking to them about self-harm. James said:
Professional support is also available for parents as they talk to their children about their children’s self-harm.
Parents’ health and wellbeing is also very important when looking after a young person. Hannah said:
Find help for self-harm
If you are a parent or carer and are worried about a child who is self-harming, have a look at our page on supporting your child who is self-harming.