No Harm Done: talking to parents and carers about self-harm
For No Harm Done, we worked with young people to create three short films about self-harm. When it comes to talking to parents and carers, they gave some insight into what it feels like and how it worked out for them.
Talking about self-harm can be tough, and for some people it can be even harder to talk to those close to you. However, once they started the conversation, young people who spoke about their experiences for No Harm Done said that confiding in family and friends really helped them.
Many young people say that self-harm can make them feel ‘isolated’. They also say that they don’t always feel able to talk about their experiences with their families.
There is still a lot of stigma attached to self-harm. However, talking about self-harm can help you feel less isolated.
Jennifer was one of the young people on the No Harm Done project. She said:
Neil, another young person who shared their experiences for No Harm Done revealed that talking can be another way to put across your emotions or feelings:
Starting the conversation
It can be difficult seeing your parents’ or relatives’ initial reactions to the news.
You might not be met with the reaction you expected, but that doesn’t always matter. Jennifer explained that what her mum said wasn’t as important as the fact that she was concerned:
Recovery can be a learning process, both for you and the people you confide in.
The benefits of talking about self-harm
Talking to those close to you can offer you valuable support.
There are also lots of different people you can talk too, Lucy added:
Talking to family members can also help improve your relationships with each other. Some young people have said that talking can help strengthen bonds and improve the way families talk to each other.
Opening up about problems can actually have improve your relationship with those around you, as Lucy found out:
Hear their stories
Lucy, Neil and Jennifer are some of the young people who shared their experiences of self-harm for No Harm Done. You can hear their stories in the No Harm Done films.
Find help for self-harm
For more information and advice on ways to get help, have a look at our self-harm page.