Tips for dealing with imposter syndrome

Topics mentioned: imposter syndrome, self-esteem  

About: After experiencing imposter syndrome at work, Mary shares three techniques that helped her quiet those thoughts and start believing in herself.

In a world where many of us are striving to be our best selves, ‘imposter syndrome’ has become a never-ending spiral of personal, critical thoughts. My inner voice tells me that I’m a fraud for finding a task too easy, I shouldn’t be at this point, or I should still be finding this challenging. That voice can take over my professional and personal life, whispering that I do not deserve the good things ‘gifted’ to me.

I have faced imposter syndrome in both situations. In a competitive career, I looked at others and believed I was not as confident or as experienced. However, in other situations, I felt embarrassed that I was finding tasks easy while others struggle.

Identifying when this arose was the first step to overcoming imposter syndrome. I asked myself: Is there a trigger? What makes me feel this way? When does that voice begin to rise? Imposter syndrome comes from a mindset of self-doubt and lack of confidence, but there are techniques you can use to quieten those thoughts and let yourself flourish.

Here are some strategies I’ve tried:

I cannot stress enough that comparing yourself to others does not help – in any situation. Everyone has different paths and different journeys. Others find it easier or harder depending on their own capabilities. You may feel that because you find something easier than someone else, you don’t deserve it. You may believe that struggling means that you are a fraud. Perhaps you feel both ways in different situations.

You can never win by comparing yourself to others. Instead, focus on how you feel. Utilise your strengths and address your weaknesses. You will not feel like an imposter if you improve your situation to its best possible position, regardless of what others do.

A problem shared is a problem halved. If you feel like you’re not capable enough to be in the position you are, ask for help. You wouldn’t be where you are without sometimes reaching out and getting further support. This does not make you weak or incapable – quite the opposite – it shows you can work on yourself to grow further.

Alternatively, if you feel you have slotted in ‘too easily’, offer more. Use your surplus to further yourself and/or others. You’ll no longer feel like an imposter - you’ll feel that you’ve done all you can to be exactly where you should be.

Ultimately, your inner voice needs to be trained and practice is required. There’s a time and a place for pushing to better yourself versus knowing that you are enough as you are. Recognise imposter syndrome when the constant need to improve infiltrates the happiness and satisfaction that you should feel when you know you’ve done the best you can.

Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses – learning to love how you are unique is the best way to overcome your inner imposter.