Adjusting to life as a new parent can be incredibly exciting and rewarding. But, at times, it can be very challenging too.
If you're feeling isolated, it's important to remember that you're not alone. There are lots of local organisations who can help. And connecting with other parents for support, reassurance and advice can make a big difference.
On this page, you can learn more about babies and infants, and find out how to get help if you need it.
Be kind to yourself. Keep reminding yourself that you are doing your best, even if you wish you might have handled something differently that day.
Babies, young children and mental health
Babies develop quickly in their first years. This time creates the foundations that support mental health throughout their life. They are also born seeking relationships and closeness with their parents or primary carers. Loving, safe, and responsive relationships act as the basis for their sense of self-worth, confidence, and trust in the world.
So when things are tough, remember how much you're doing every time you just cuddle, smile at or talk to your baby or toddler.
Babies and infants can have very different needs. Some might struggle with sleep, feeding, toilet training, or challenging behaviour. And sometimes these can make parenting more difficult.
How you're feeling can also affect how you feel about your relationship with your child. This can be particularly difficult if you're struggling with your own mental health. Lots of people go through this during pregnancy, after their child is born, or even much later in their child's life.
When this is happening, things can feel incredibly overwhelming. If you need support, read our guide to looking after yourself as a parent, or reach out for help using the links at the bottom of this page.
You can find lots of information about things babies and toddlers might struggle with on the NCT website. They also have advice on parental mental health.
Connecting with other parents and local support
Many people with babies and young children find it helpful to reach out to other parents. This can be invaluable if you feel isolated. Sometimes you need people around you who just know what you're going through.
It can also be helpful to talk through how they have handled difficult situations.
Drop-ins, baby cafes, parent groups or courses, and activities for babies and toddlers in your local area may also help. You can often find these by searching your local council's website, or using a search engine.
You may also be able to connect with other parents by:
- using the Charlie Waller parent support network to see if there’s a local parent support group in your area
- accessing peer and group parent support through Parenting Mental Health
- joining Facebook or other online groups such as Netmums
- setting up your own parent support group using our guide
If you're worried your child may have a developmental issue (like a disability or hearing problems) or a physical health issue (such as a food intolerance or sensitivity), talk to your health visitor or GP. They can refer your child for an assessment or additional support if needed.
Challenging behaviour
Sometimes, challenging behaviour can become more frequent and difficult to deal with. It may start to have an impact on your child's day-to-day life, relationships, or learning.
If your young child's behaviour is particularly challenging, take a look at our guide to challenging behaviour. This can help you better understand challenging behaviour, and offers tips that can make things better.
Useful helplines and websites
While we take care to ensure that the organisations we signpost to provide high quality information and advice, we cannot take responsibility for any specific pieces of advice they may offer. We encourage parents and carers to always explore the website of a linked service or organisation to understand who they are and what support they offer before engaging with them.
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NCT
Practical and emotional support for all areas of pregnancy, birth and the first two years of your child's life.
You can join an NCT group during pregnancy to connect with other local parents and get information and advice about child birth and the first few weeks.
You can also use their infant feeding line to get advice about anything to do with feeding your baby.
- Opening times:
- Every day, 8am - midnight, including bank holidays
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National Breastfeeding Helpline
Friendly, non-judgemental and evidence based breastfeeding support and information for anyone who needs it. Support is available in English, Welsh, Polish, Bengali and Sylheti, and for people who have hearing or speech impairments.
For support in Bengali or Sylheti, call a separate number on 0300 456 2421.
Webchat service also available.
- Opening times:
- 9.30am - 9.30pm, every day of the year
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Home-Start
Your local Home-Start can provide support such as home visits, local family groups, social events and help to access other services. Search for your local Home-Start and their contact details.
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Cry-sis
Support and advice for parents with crying and sleepless babies. Calls to the helpline cost 2p per minute, plus the standard network charge.
- Opening times:
- Daily 9am – 10pm
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Sleep Action
Support for parents with a child who is struggling with sleep, including sleep counselling and a sleep support line. Contact them by email to book a phone appointment with a sleep advisor.
- Opening times:
- 10am - 4pm, Monday to Thursday
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ERIC
Support and advice around issues such as potty training, bedwetting constipation and soiling. You can call the helpline or use this online contact form.
- Opening times:
- Monday – Thursday, 10am-2pm
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PANDAS
Emotional support for any parent experiencing pre or post natal depression, or another mental health issue such as anxiety, during or after a pregnancy or birth.
As well as using their helpline, you may be able to find a local support group.
- Opening times:
- Every day, 11am - 10pm
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Family Line
Provides information and support around family issues, as well as longer-term help through Befrienders and Counsellors.
- Opening times:
- 9am - 9pm, Monday - Friday
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Contact
Provides support, information and advice for families with children with disabilities or other conditions including ADHD. Also runs family workshops and activities.
Free online chat service available.
- Opening times:
- 9:30am - 5pm, Monday - Friday
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Gingerbread
Support for single parents in England and Wales. Their Helpline can provide support and advice around issues like going through separation or bereavement, as well as financial issues such as child maintenance and child support or benefits.
They also have a live chat service, open at certain points during opening hours. See website for more details.
- Opening times:
- Mondays and Wednesdays 10am-7pm, Tuesdays and Thursdays 10am-4pm.
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One Parent Families Scotland
Provides support, information and advice for single parents in Scotland.
Online chat service available.
- Opening times:
- 9.30am - 4pm, Monday - Friday
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Twins Trust
Support for parents of twins, triplets or more.
- Opening times:
- 10am - 1pm and 7pm - 10pm, Monday to Friday
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