Looking after yourself at uni
Being at university can be a really exciting period in your life, but it can also feel stressful or overwhelming at times. Here are some ways you can look after yourself.
Looking after yourself during the COVID-19 pandemic
We know uni is looking very different this year and you may be feeling frustrated, angry, scared, anxious and alone. You may be self-isolating, and if you're a new student we know it can be worrying and upsetting to isolate in a new place with people you might not know that well yet. This is a difficult time, so whether you're starting university or returning for your second, third or fourth year, however you're feeling is valid.
Here are our tips for looking after yourself at this difficult time:
- Talk to someone you trust about how you're feeling. It's so important not to suffer in silence. It can be scary to open up about how you're feeling, but you are not alone - there are people who want to help. You may find it helpful to arrange set times to speak to your friends or family back home. Or if you'd rather talk to someone you don't know, we have a list of helplines and services below.
- Find out what support is available at your uni. Most universities have counselling services and you should have a student welfare officer or tutor who can help you get support if you need it. Search on Student Space to find out what support is available at your university.
- Register with a GP near campus. Even if you don't feel you need to talk to your GP right now, it's a good idea to register now so you can get help if and when you need it. Visit the NHS page for information on how to register.
- Try to get the basics in place. When we are going through times of change, it can be really helpful to have a routine to give us some structure. Think about basic things you can do to look after your body, like getting enough sleep, trying to eat a balanced diet and doing regular exercise if you can; these can all help with your mental health. For more advice, have a look at our blog on tips for creating a routine during self-isolation.
- Check in with how you're feeling. Some people find it really helpful to journal, or make a note of how they're feeling so they can see what does and doesn't help them feel better. If you're not a big fan of writing, you could try keeping a doodle diary. This can also be helpful to show to a doctor or counsellor if you feel you need more support.
- Try to focus on the positives. We know it can feel like you're missing out on the 'typical' uni experience right now. There may be things you can't do, but what about the things you can do? If you're self-isolating, could you organise daily or weekly activities with your housemates, such as having dinner together, holding a game night or starting a TV series together?
- Build new friendships in different ways. If you're starting university this year, you might be finding it harder to make friends without the usual activities and events. The good news is, everyone else in your year is in the same boat! By your shared experiences you already have common ground with the people around you so don't be afraid to step out and start those conversations. If you're struggling to befriend people in your accommodation, many student union groups are running online events. These may feel a bit cheesy or awkward at first, but they can be a great way to meet people who enjoy the same things as you.
- Don't put too much pressure on yourself academically. It's important at times like these to prioritise your mental health, so give yourself a break if you need one!
- Remember that you are not alone. We're all in this together and lots of students are feeling the same as you. Together we will get through this.
- Text YM to 85258 for urgent support, day or night. Find out more about how to get urgent help.
Tips from our bloggers at university:
"It is okay to be scared. Your bravery for taking this leap if you’re also tackling mental health challenges is amazing and something to be proud of!
I was definitely nervous about all sorts of things before I started uni: meeting new people, getting used to a different city, finances, accommodation and transferring care teams. I was also filled with self-doubt and worried that I had got in by mistake and that as soon as the work started I would be kicked out! Worst of all, I felt like I was the only one struggling."
"As a current university student myself, I have had sleepless nights about how my experience will be changed due to the current situation; however, I think it’s important to realise that every single university student is experiencing the exact same thing. We cannot control what is happening, so why should we spend so much time worrying about something that we can’t change?
I know that it’s easier said than done, but please try to understand that you are not alone and the fact that you’re still able to participate in university this year is a huge blessing – try to focus on the positives and be proud of yourself for everything that you have achieved to get you to this point."
Read the full blog: Tips if you are struggling to settle into uni during the COVID-19 pandemic
"There is no point denying that this year will be different for incoming and current university students. However, the uni essentials are the same: flatmates, friends and settling in. As a very anxious person, but also an extrovert and someone who enjoys going out, I was desperate to find people similar to those I left at home. This isn’t always found among your flatmates, but that doesn’t mean you won't find your group eventually.
If, like me, you are really lucky with your flatmates, commit to going to events and having flat nights in with them. The worst thing to do in this stage is to lock yourself in your room and focus on the anxiety surrounding the situation. For anybody who does not find their flatmates are their perfect group, make sure you have a good relationship with them and do not judge! This is your time to enjoy the company of different sorts of people, and you can’t do that with a closed mindset."
Read the full blog: How to cope with Fresher's nerves
The "best years of your life"
It's something we've all heard: your time at university will be "the best years of your life". This may be true for some people, but chances are you will go through some difficult times while at university, just like you might at any other time when big changes are happening in your life. It can be a lonely time, especially if you’re away from home and missing your family and friends. And you might feel under pressure to make friends, fit in and meet deadlines. On top of that, it might seem like everyone else is coping fine and having the time of their lives.
It is important to remember that almost everyone struggles with life at university at some point. In fact, a 2018 study found that:
- one third (33%) of students surveyed felt lonely often or all of the time
- almost nine in ten (87.7%) students struggled with feelings of anxiety
- over three quarters (75.6%) of students hid their mental health symptoms from friends.
So, if university life is making you feel overwhelmed, anxious and unhappy, you are not alone, and things can get better.
If you’re struggling to cope, the most important thing to do is to talk about it. Here are some places you can turn to for support.
Where can you find support on campus?
The mental health services available will differ between universities, but here are some places you can look for support:
If you’re struggling to cope, a good first step is to talk to your GP - make sure you’re registered with one at your uni. It can help to write down what you’ve been going through before your visit.
Most universities have counselling services, which will give you the chance to talk through your experiences in a non-judgemental space. Find out more on your uni’s website.
Tutors and student welfare officers
There may be a tutor assigned to give you pastoral support, or a student welfare officer you can talk to.
Student Minds run support groups, especially focusing on depression and eating disorders, which are led by other students. Find out if they have groups at your university: www.studentminds.org.uk
In an emergency
If you’re about to harm yourself or have already done so, phone 999 or go to A&E and explain that you’re at risk.
There is a list of more places you can turn for support at the bottom of this page.
Self-care at university
There are things you can do yourself to help look after your mental wellbeing at university. Our blogger Josh shares the self-care tips that helped him:
Jogging, running, swimming, anything that helped get my endorphins flowing.
2. Accepting that I was ill
This was difficult because mental illness isn’t as tangible as a physical condition. However, trying to pretend I was fine only made things worse. I had to be kind to myself and put in the correct self-care.
3. Maintaining relationships
Socialising seemed like a pretty arduous task at times, but it helped to stay connected with the world.
4. Cutting down on alcohol
Drinking might have made me feel better in the short term, but it only masked the problem rather than solving it.
5. Looking after my body
This meant improving my diet, sleeping well, and drinking plenty of water.
6. Speaking to others
This was the most important thing I did, and by leaning on those close to me, I was able to get the day-to-day support I needed.
Here are more tips and advice from students on looking after yourself at uni:
Blogs, tips and advice
For more real stories about mental health at university, as well as lots of helpful tips and advice, have a look at our blogs:
Helplines and services
YoungMinds Crisis Messenger
Provides free, 24/7 text support for young people across the UK experiencing a mental health crisis.
All texts are answered by trained volunteers, with support from experienced clinical supervisors.
Texts are free from EE, O2, Vodafone, 3, Virgin Mobile, BT Mobile, GiffGaff, Tesco Mobile and Telecom Plus.
Texts can be anonymous, but if the volunteer believes you are at immediate risk of harm, they may share your details with people who can provide support.
Text: YM to 85258
Opening times: 24/7
A free, confidential listening service for you to talk about anything that is on your mind.
Services and opening times vary from institution to institution, but often there is a phone, text, email and live chat service.
See if your university has a nightline listening service.
Opening times: Varies from university to university