What not to say to people struggling with their mental health at Christmas

“A better one would be, ‘I understand that you are struggling; it’s OK to not feel good around this time of year.’” – Jacob

“That’s not always possible, especially when you’re struggling with your mental health. A more helpful thing would be, ‘I can see you’re not feeling great. What do you need from us right now?’” – Rosie

“Is there anything I can do to help over Christmas?” – Issy

“Christmas means different things to everyone. It’s OK not to feel the same.” – Lisa

“If you need to excuse yourself, that’s OK. But understand how you’re feeling is acceptable.” – Frankie

“I know things are hard and people expect you to act happy but you can always be yourself with me.” – Toby

“For some people that’s great, but for others who have tricky relationships with family members (or no family at all), it can be more helpful to hear, ‘Christmas is a good opportunity to spend time with people you love.’” – Rosie

“If you need someone to call or text during the holidays, I’m here for you.” - Iris

“Not everyone feels comfortable socialising when they are struggling with their mental health. So instead of this you could say, ‘You don’t have to have plans this holiday season. Be spontaneous and maybe use this time to let yourself grow – or do nothing. It’s your choice.’” – Ulfa

“Do you need some alone time?” – Amelia

“If you feel overwhelmed, you can leave the room whenever you like. We’re here for you.” – Carys

“I know you’re struggling, and it’s OK.” - Grace

“I know this time of year with food is tough, but do what you can and I will be here” – Hannah

“Eat as much as you want. Don’t feel pressured.” – Elea

"New year, same you - but with new opportunities." - Eleanor