Five tips for looking after yourself during family arguments

Creating boundaries is a really healthy way to make sure you’re feeling safe while dealing with family arguments and emotional situations. This is also a way for you to know what you’re okay with and what you’re not okay with. For example, you might agree on a time to have space away from family and a time when you feel able to talk.

My second tip is to write down all of your thoughts and feelings. This can really help you process family arguments and get a better understanding of how you feel. It can be especially helpful if you’re feeling numb and need a way to express yourself.

During arguments, it’s okay to walk away if you feel overwhelmed. Taking time out is a good way to remove yourself from the situation. This can be in a separate room or going outside for a breather, even if it’s just for five minutes. This gives you space to calm down and process all of your emotions and figure out what you want to say. Especially if you’re feeling angry and like you may ‘pop’ at any moment.

Speaking to someone you know well and trust can be a great way to vent about your current issues with your family. This could be a friend, relative, someone from school/college or university. There are also helplines at the bottom of this page that you can use if you don’t want to talk to someone who knows you and your family.

Family conflict and arguments happen for so many reasons. Hearing your family argue or falling out with people you love can be upsetting, but it’s important to remember that you haven’t done anything wrong. By communicating your side of the story and listening to your family, you can work through these difficult times together and reach a compromise.