If you are feeling so down that you can’t see a way out, know that others have felt this way and survived. You are not alone and however bad you feel, you can be helped.
What are suicidal feelings?
Suicidal feelings are when a normal feeling of being very down and not sure where to turn become so deep and intense that the only solution seems to be to end your life.
With nearly 25% of young people feeling suicidal at least once in their lives, it is very common and there are lots of ways of dealing with it and lots of people who have come out the other side.
A number of things can lead up to suicidal feelings but it’s more likely if you’re
- depressed, or have another serious mental illness
- using drugs or alcohol, particularly if you’re upset
- very anxious about the future or today’s pressures
- under pressure from family or your peers
Suicidal feelings can also dominate your ability to think so much that it makes it hard to understand that you can be helped, whatever the problem is.
Comedian and actor Stephen Fry has said that his bipolar disorder led to him contemplating suicide almost daily but that working with a psychiatrist and taking the right medication has helped a lot.
What to do about feeling suicidal
If you talk about feeling suicidal you will able to get the help and treatment you need that will greatly reduce the size of your problems and with it, reduce the risk of suicide.
There are some warning signs of suicidal feelings:
- always talking or thinking about death
- deep depression
- deep sadness
- loss of interest
- trouble sleeping and eating that gets progressively worse
- comments about feeling helpless or worthless
- self harm
Just because you experience one or more of these symptoms, it doesn’t mean you definitely have suicidal feelings but if you feel these are linked to a desire to end your life, talk to your GP.
How you can be helped
If you have hurt yourself or think you might be about to hurt yourself, call 999
Take the first step – if you have suicidal feelings, talk to someone you trust. If you are worried they can’t help speak to your GP.
Helplines and services available
Papyrus (Prevention of Young Suicide)
- Confidential advice and support for young people who feel suicidal.
- HOPELineUK: 0800 068 41 41
- Text: 07786 209 697
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
- If you're in distress and need support, you can ring Samaritans for free at any time of the day or night.
- Freephone (UK and Republic of Ireland): 116 123 (24 hours)
- Email: email@example.com
CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably)
- Offers support to young men in the UK who are down or in a crisis.
- Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 (Daily 17:00-midnight)
- If you're under 18 you can confidentially call, email, or chat online about any problem big or small
Freephone 24h helpline: 0800 1111
- Sign up for a childline account on the website to be able to message a counsellor anytime without using your email address
- Chat 1:1 with an online advisor
- If you're under 25 you can talk to The Mix for free on the phone, by email or on their webchat. You can also use their phone counselling service, or get more information on support services you might need.
- Freephone: 0808 808 4994 (13:00-23:00 daily)