If you’re feeling so down that you can’t see a way out, you are not alone. Lots of people have felt like this and – with help – managed to get through it. However bad you are feeling right now, there is a lot of help out there for you.
What are suicidal feelings?
You might be feeling down and sad. But if those feelings have become very deep and intense, and you don’t know what to do about them, you might think the only solution is to end your life. But there is hope for you, and you can get through it.
You’re not the only one who feels this way – many people feel suicidal at some time in their lives. What’s important for you to know is that there are lots of ways of dealing with this feeling and overcoming it. It’s possible to come out the other side and feel okay again.
You might experience suicidal feelings if you:
- Are depressed or have another mental illness
- Struggle with low self-esteem
- Use drugs or alcohol, especially when you’re upset
- Feel anxious about pressures you face today or in the future
- Feel under pressure from family or your peers
These feelings can get in the way of everything else – so much that you might find it hard to believe that you can feel better. But you can, whatever the problem is.
What to do about feeling suicidal
It can be hard to talk about your feelings. But sharing your worries with someone you trust can help you see your problems in a different way, and understand that suicide is not the only option.
Here are some warning signs of suicidal feelings:
- Always talking or thinking about death
- Deep depression and sadness
- Losing interest in daily life
- Having increasing trouble sleeping and eating
- Feeling helpless or worthless
- Feeling angry and that things can't change
If you experience any of these symptoms above, please don’t suffer in silence. You deserve help, and you will find that life is worth living.
Ways to get help
Take the first step and talk to someone you trust. If you’ve been thinking about ending your life, it’s a good idea to talk to someone you trust, like a family member, friend, or teacher.
If you don’t feel like you can speak to anyone you know, there are confidential helplines, like the Samaritans, and safe online forums, like The Mix, where you can get support from trained people who care and want you to feel better.
Speak to your GP and find out how to get help. This can be really daunting, but your GP will have heard from lots of people who are feeling like you are now. They will know what support and services are available in your local area. They can help you decide if medication like anti-depressants might help you.
Have you have hurt yourself, or think you might be about to hurt yourself? Call 999 now.
How to support a friend who is feeling suicidal
- Listen without judgement, stay calm and don’t over-react.
- Be aware it’s not your job to take away the pain or make it better. All you can do is be there, even if you don’t know what to say.
- Encourage them to open up and help them identify a trusted adult (such as a teacher) they could talk to and who can help them find support. Some young people may be reluctant to talk to a parent in case they ‘freak out’ or because the parent him/herself suffers from mental health problems.
- Help them build up a wider support network so they know who to contact 24/7 if they’re struggling, such as The Samaritans, Childline or the YoungMinds Crisis Messenger.
- Make sure you talk to someone too. If you’re trying to support a friend who’s been thinking about suicide, that information can be a heavy burden to carry alone so share your feelings with someone you trust.
Helplines and services available
YoungMinds Crisis Messenger
- Provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK if you are experiencing a mental health crisis
- If you need urgent help text YM to 85258
- All texts are answered by trained volunteers, with support from experienced clinical supervisors
- Texts are free from EE, O2, Vodafone, 3, Virgin Mobile, BT Mobile, GiffGaff, Tesco Mobile and Telecom Plus.
Papyrus (Prevention of Young Suicide)
- Confidential advice and support for young people who feel suicidal.
- HOPELineUK: 0800 068 41 41
- Text: 07786 209 697
- Email: [email protected]
- If you're in distress and need support, you can ring Samaritans for free at any time of the day or night.
- Freephone (UK and Republic of Ireland): 116 123 (24 hours)
- Email: [email protected]
CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably)
- Offers support to young men in the UK who are down or in a crisis.
- Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 (Daily 17:00-midnight)
- If you're under 19 you can confidentially call, email, or chat online about any problem big or small
Freephone 24h helpline: 0800 1111
- Sign up for a childline account on the website to be able to message a counsellor anytime without using your email address
- Chat 1:1 with an online advisor
- If you're under 25 you can talk to The Mix for free on the phone, by email or on their webchat. You can also use their phone counselling service, or get more information on support services you might need.
- Freephone: 0808 808 4994 (13:00-23:00 daily)