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Phobias

What is a phobia?

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A phobia is an extreme fear of a person, place, situation, object or animal. It’s more than just being scared – phobias are a type of anxiety disorder. They can really make things harder day-to-day and impact your mental health, making you feel:

Phobias are especially tough when they’re hard to avoid daily. But remember, they’re common and help is available. With support, you can manage or overcome your fears.

How do I know if I have a phobia?

Lots of us feel scared or worried about certain situations or objects, and this is completely normal. But a fear becomes a phobia when:

  • you see danger in something that isn’t really a threat
  • you start to organise your life around avoiding what frightens you
  • just thinking or talking about it can trigger anxiety

You might not have symptoms until you see or experience your phobia. Everyone experiences phobias differently, but you might notice symptoms in your body or in your feelings and behaviour.

These symptoms can be overwhelming, but with the right support you can overcome a phobia. Here are some common signs:

  • feeling overwhelmed
  • racing heart
  • panic attacks
  • sweating
  • shortness of breath
  • shaking
  • dizziness
  • upset stomach
  • fear of losing control
  • fear of fainting
  • feelings of dread
  • fear of dying

Common types of phobia

People can develop phobias about lots of things, and they generally fall into two categories: specific/simple phobias and complex phobias.

Specific or simple phobias

These are about specific objects, animals, situations or activities. Lots of people have phobias about all sorts of things, but some common ones are:

  • animal phobias (spiders, snakes, dogs)
  • bodily phobias (blood, being sick, having injections)
  • situational phobias (small spaces, going to the dentist, flying)
  • environmental phobias (heights, germs, water)

Emetophobia is an intense fear of vomiting, feeling sick, or seeing others be sick. It can also come from worrying about losing control or being stuck in a situation.

It affects people in different ways, but someone with emetophobia might:

  • avoid certain places or situations
  • struggle to eat or only eat certain foods
  • constantly check themselves for signs of illness
  • wash and clean themselves a lot to avoid germs

This can feel really isolating, but it’s one of the most common phobias. With the right support, you can learn to manage and overcome emetophobia.

Read Laura's journey to recovery from emetophobia

Complex phobias

These are intense fears about certain situations, circumstances or feelings, and they can impact your life more than specific phobias.

The two most common examples of complex phobias are agoraphobia and social phobia.

Agoraphobia is a fear of being in situations where it’d be tough to escape or get help if things go wrong. It can sometimes come from having a specific phobia, like being scared of something you might see outside.

People with agoraphobia often struggle with everyday stuff, like:

  • getting to school or work
  • using public transport
  • doing things alone

They might even find it hard to leave home at all.

Many anxieties tend to make us feel like we can't do the same things others can do, but the truth is that with the right people around us - we don't have to miss out on everything.
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It’s normal to feel shy or anxious about social situations sometimes, but social phobia is more severe and long-lasting. Someone with social phobia might:

  • feel extremely stressed about social events
  • worry about embarrassing themselves
  • fret over everyday interactions, like shopping or making calls

This can be really tough, but with the right support, things can improve.

Read Emily's story about coping with social phobia

Why do I have a phobia?

People get phobias for all sorts of reasons, but it’s not always clear why they happen. Here are some things that can make it more likely:

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It’s difficult, but you have to face your fear and learn to sit with it, when and where necessary.

Getting help and support for phobias

Here are some things you can try to get support and help manage your phobia.

If you’re feeling alone with your phobia and don’t know what to do, talking can really help. You can talk to a friend, family member, teacher or faith leader. There are also helplines you can contact. If talking feels tough, try writing it down first.

You could even share with them our advice on supporting someone with a phobia.

Find out more about reaching out for help

Breathing techniques and grounding exercises can help you feel more in control and calm. Try one of the exercises below.

  • 5-4-3-2-1 method: Name five things you can see, four things you can feel, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste.
  • Deep breathing exercise: Place your hand on your stomach, take a deep breath in through your nose while counting to three, then slowly breathe out through your mouth. Repeat until you feel calmer.

If your phobia is making life hard, your doctor can help you find support and what to do next.

Find out more about talking to your GP

Treatment for phobias

Therapy is the main treatment for phobias, but your doctor might also offer medication to help with anxiety symptoms.

Counselling and therapy

The most common therapy for phobias is cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), especially exposure therapy. This involves slowly exposing yourself to your phobia, with the support of a therapist.

For example, if you have a phobia of bugs, you might start by reading about them, then look at a picture. Eventually, you’ll work up to being in the same room as a bug and slowly work up to holding one. It’s a gradual process, and your therapist will go at your pace, never forcing anything.

The idea is that the more you’re exposed to your phobia, the less anxiety you’ll feel.

Find out more about counselling and therapy

Medication

Medication isn’t usually the go-to treatment for phobias, but your doctor might prescribe:

These are often used alongside therapy to help manage your symptoms.

Find out more about medication

If your phobia is stopping you from getting help

Getting help for a phobia can be overwhelming, especially if it means facing your fear. But there are things you can do to make it easier:

  • Most GP surgeries let you book appointments online if calling is too stressful. If that’s not an option, try emailing them instead.
  • It’s more than okay to bring someone with you for support.
  • Let your doctor know about any specific worries or triggers before the appointment so they can help.
  • If leaving the house is too much, see if your GP offers home visits or online appointments.
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My treatment for emetophobia was one of the scariest things I’ve done, but it was all worth it.

Supporting someone with a phobia

If you someone you care about is struggling with a phobia, your support can make a huge difference. Phobias can be really isolating, especially when it’s something most people don’t worry about. Having someone on their side can help them feel more confident to overcome their phobia.

Here’s how you can help:

  • Take their phobia seriously

    Even if you don’t get it, their fear is real to them. Let them know that their feelings are valid.

  • Ask about their triggers

    For some, even talking about their fear can trigger anxiety. Knowing their triggers can help you avoid them.

  • Encourage, don’t pressure

    It’s good to support them in facing their fear, but don’t push them to do anything they aren’t ready for. Talk to them about what feels doable.

  • Help them with distraction/grounding techniques

    When they’re exposed to their phobia, guide them through distraction or a grounding technique.

  • Encourage them to seek help

    If they’re nervous about seeing a doctor, offer to go with them if you feel comfortable.

  • Remember, it's not all on you

    You don't have to fix everything or have the perfect advice. Just being there is enough.

Get help now

If a phobia or any type of anxiety is making life difficult you are not alone. Here are some services that can support you. 

  • Triumph Over Phobia (Top UK)

    Runs a network of local self-help groups for anyone aged 16+ who has a phobia, OCD or an anxiety disorder. 

  • No Panic

    Supports people struggling with panic attacks, phobias, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and other anxiety-related issues - and provides support and information for their carers.

    Call 01952 680835 for a recorded breathing exercise to help you through a panic attack (available 24/7).

    Read information about call costs.

    Opening times:
    10am - 10pm, 365 days a year
  • Childline

    If you’re under 19 you can confidentially call, chat online or email about any problem big or small.

    Sign up for a free Childline locker (real name or email address not needed) to use their free 1-2-1 counsellor chat and email support service.

    Can provide a BSL interpreter if you are deaf or hearing-impaired.

    Hosts online message boards where you can share your experiences, have fun and get support from other young people in similar situations.

    Opening times:
    24/7
  • Samaritans

    Whatever you're going through, you can contact the Samaritans for support. N.B. This is a listening service and does not offer advice or intervention.

    Opening times:
    24/7
  • CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably)

    Provides support to anyone aged 16+ who is feeling down and needs to talk or find information.

    Free webchat service available.

    Read information about the helpline and how it works.

    Opening times:
    5pm - midnight, 365 days a year
  • Shout

    Text SHOUT to 85258.

    Shout provides free, 24/7 text support for young people across the UK experiencing a mental health crisis.

    All texts are answered by trained volunteers, with support from experienced clinical supervisors.

    Texts are free from EE, O2, Vodafone, 3, Virgin Mobile, BT Mobile, GiffGaff, Tesco Mobile and Telecom Plus.

    Texts can be anonymous, but if the volunteer believes you are at immediate risk of harm, they may share your details with people who can provide support.

    Opening times:
    24/7

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