The Moment I Reached Out
Reaching out for help can be daunting. We asked some young people, and our ambassadors, what it was like to speak to someone about their mental health and how they found #TalkingHelps.
Talking to someone about how you’re feeling can be daunting, especially if you’re going through a difficult time. But it can often make all the difference to your mental health.
If you’re nervous about reaching out for help, you’re not alone. Many people have described how scared they felt, but also how much of a relief it was afterwards.
We asked some young people, and our ambassadors, about what it was like to speak to someone about their mental health, and how they found that #TalkingHelps. These are the stories they shared about:
Daniel Howell, YouTuber and YoungMinds Ambassador
“I felt like a burden had lifted. Instead of the constant anxiety of pretending everything is fine and like I had a dirty secret, I felt loved and supported and powerful that I finally owned this part of my life.”
Chloe: Guest blogger
“It took me 5 years before it finally got too much and I realised that if I didn’t reach out and get help, I wouldn’t be able to achieve even the smallest of everyday tasks.
Making those first steps, calling my local mental health service and telling someone I couldn’t cope anymore was truly the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. I was shaking with fear and I had a river flowing from my eyes, but I stuck it out, I persevered and now here I am with three weeks left of therapy, and honestly, I can’t thank my past-self more for doing it.
It’s the most elating feeling in the world to have someone there, someone who doesn’t judge you, who you can pour your heart out to and say what you truly feel. I also got advice and learnt techniques on how to manage my emotions. I was made to feel welcome and told I was not alone and that it was okay not to be okay.
Talking has changed my life and my perspective of the world. It’s taught me ways to cope and how to overcome my feelings.”
Lauren Layfield, TV Presenter and YoungMinds Ambassador
“When I was younger, I thought I was the only one struggling, so I didn’t breathe a word to anyone. It was only years down the line that I plucked up the courage to speak up for myself, and SO MANY people around me turned around and said “I suffer with anxiety you know” or “I’m feeling really down at the moment” or “I’m on medication for depression”.
Laura: Guest blogger
“I remember walking to the doctors and crying the entire way there, even when I was in the waiting room I couldn’t pull myself together.
This continued when I walked into their office, tears rolling down my face, desperately trying to explain what was wrong.
The response I received from my doctor was very much needed, she reassured me that it is extremely normal for people to feel sad even when they necessarily don’t have a reason to be.
I began to feel like things could get better.”
Mike Yardy, English Cricketer and YoungMinds Amabssador
“When I opened up, I couldn’t believe how supportive family, friends and team mates were. Some may not get it but they do get that you are not yourself. They want you to get better, so they will help in any way they can.”
Michaela: Guest blogger
“It wasn't until I was at university that a lovely sweet girl approached me and simply asked me:
'Are you okay?'
It was in that moment that I broke down and cried like never before. Those tears were like a release of all the stress and pressure of 'being normal and carrying on'.
Following that, I spoke to my therapist, my university and my loved ones and began receiving support and although it didn't get better immediately, things started moving. It was progress. Hope.”
If you need someone to talk to, visit our Need To Talk guide, with websites and helplines where you can find a listening ear.