How to stop comparing yourself to the celebrities you see on social media
On social media, sometimes it can feel like we're being bombarded with images of celebrities living glamorous lives. Laura, 20, shares her tips on how to stop comparing our own lives with what we see online.
We’re all guilty of it – aimlessly scrolling through social media and comparing ourselves and our lives to a celebrity that appears to have the ‘perfect’ body, the ‘perfect’ relationship and the ‘perfect’ life. It can be hard to scroll past these posts without analysing every single difference between yourself and the person posting. I’ve sat there at times and thought, ‘I don’t have a flat stomach like that,’ or ‘I don’t have a relationship like that’ and this has had an impact on my mental health.
I’ve tried to unfollow the people that I’ve compared myself to in the past, but the initial comparison has still left a lasting impression. I now have a much better relationship with social media, and I’d love to share some tips that helped me to overcome this damaging behaviour.
Unfollow but address the insecurity first
It seems too easy to just unfollow the people that you’re comparing yourself to, and from my experience, this is only part of the solution. Unfollowing someone can help to some extent as you’re not exposed to any further content that may make you question yourself, but the initial comparison that you made between yourself and that person is still very much lingering on your mind.
I think that asking yourself why you felt the need to compare yourself, and addressing the underlying anxiety or insecurity can help to restore your mental health to a more positive state. For example, if you find yourself comparing your body, then maybe work on some self-love techniques in order to feel more secure within yourself. I’m not saying you should change yourself in order to stop feeling the need to compare, but simply trying to become more comfortable with who you are can be key to overcoming these behaviours.
Remind yourself that what you're seeing isn't the entire truth
When somebody posts a picture on Instagram, they are not showing you the whole picture. For example, I know that I only show the bits of my life that I believe to be the best bits. I would never dream of posting a picture of me first thing in the morning or a picture of me when I’m crying in my room because of something that happened that day. The point is that everything we see on social media is filtered, edited and not the full picture. It’s so easy to get sucked into the mindset that what you’re seeing is how somebody is one hundred percent of the time, but you must take a step back and remind yourself that this is not the case.
We are all only human - your favourite influencer will have things that they’re insecure about, they just don’t post about them because most people don’t wish to be that vulnerable. Remember that you’re doing amazing and you’re at the stage in life that you’re meant to be at – it isn’t a competition between you and your followers! We all need to make a conscious effort to work on ourselves mentally and support others in order to improve our mental health.
Author: Laura, 20
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