How I handle Valentine's Day
Our guest blogger Chloe shares some advice for how you can spend Valentine's Day loving yourself and celebrating with friends and family if you're not looking forward to it.
Ways you could spend Valentine's Day
Eh, Valentine’s Day….My least favourite day of the year!
I try to use this time of year, when everyone around me is coupled up and besotted with one another, to remind myself just how much I AM worth. I may not have another half, but I do have lots of loving friends and family around me. I may not have found the one, but I am learning to love myself. So if you find Valentine’s Day hard knowing that most people are with their loved ones, here’s some ways you could spend the day:
Spend time with family and friends
My first suggestion would be to spend Valentine’s Day with your family and friends. Whether it be by making your parents a meal or treating your best friend to dinner, you can show them how much you appreciate them (even if you don’t always show it!). Here’s your chance to tell them how grateful you are to have them in your life and treat them as your Valentine. Doing this can also help you realise that, no matter who you are, there will be people around you who love and care for you. Valentine’s Day is a day of love, and love comes in all shapes and sizes - it doesn’t necessarily have to be in the form of your other half.
Focus on you
Secondly, I would suggest that you focus on you. I think the most important type of love that should be given on Valentine’s Day is self-love. We live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves to perfectly-airbrushed Instagram models. The high expectations society has tell us that we are not good enough. But believe me, YOU and I mean YOU reading this right now - YES YOU - are good enough.
Take today to be kind to yourself: run yourself a bubble bath; light some candles; pop on a facemask and your favourite movie, lie back and relax. Switch off from the online world and be completely and utterly absorbed in treating yourself. Being kind to one another is something we often do without a second thought, but when do we ever take the chance to be kind to ourselves? One day of self-love simply isn’t enough, but it’s definitely a good place to start, and Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to do just that!
My Valentine's message to you
On Valentine’s Day, I want to encourage you to do something. We can often look for love to quiet our insecurities and make us feel like we are ‘worth it’. But how about instead, this Valentine's Day, we look in the mirror and learn to love who we see staring back at us – the person who has been through so much, but is still standing here stronger and wiser. The person who will stand for many, many more days and years to come.
The day you learn to love yourself will be the day that you’ll see how much the world loves you and has loved you all this time. You are incredible, you are worth it, and you do not need a Valentine to confirm that.
If you’re struggling right now, hang on in there. I know it feels impossible and like there is no way you can ever get out of this rut - and today of all days probably won’t feel much different - but I promise you from first-hand experience that things do get better. Stick it out, take time to love yourself, and from today make this year your year - a year of self-love.
So today, why not say Happy Valentine’s Day to the person staring back at you in the mirror? You are beautiful and you are SO worth it.