How I Feel When I’m Angry And What Helps Me Cope
Our Activists shared what it feels like for them when they’re angry, and the advice they would give to themselves in the moment.
What does it feel like when you’re angry? Do you feel like you’re going to explode, or do you try push it to the back of your mind? However you feel, anger is something normal that we all experience. Our Activists share how anger feels for them, and the advice they would give to themselves in the moment.
When I’m angry, I feel like a bottle with lots of reactions going on inside it. I feel like I’m trying not to come out of the bottle by suppressing it and holding the lid on.
The advice I would give to myself when I’m angry is: remember that your feelings are valid, even if they ‘feel too much’ or coming out in ways that you think are ‘wrong’. They are perfectly okay. Talk to someone about the energy you are feeling.
When I’m angry I feel a lot of self-hate and worthlessness. I also feel a build-up of energy.
The advice I would give to myself when I’m angry is: just think, in 15 years’ time are you still going to care about this? In 10? In 5? In 1 year?
When I’m angry I feel like I have no control. There are tears, I lash out and can overreact or have irrational outbursts that may seem petty. It feels explosive, I shake and my blood boils. I can only think of the negative and I push my closest friends and family away.
The advice I would give to myself when I’m angry is: remember that your friends and family aren’t trying to purposefully upset you. Stop expecting people to know why you’re angry if you aren’t telling them. It’s alright to be alone, but don’t drive people away. A good cry to let things out is fine, and remember this isn’t you all the time. It’s important to tell people what you want, it’s nothing to be embarrassed by.
When I’m angry, I bottle it all up and push it all back in on myself with a really negative internal dialogue, and tell myself to grow up, or that I’m not good enough. I tend to completely isolate myself. I grind my teeth, and my legs and hands shake and I stutter when I’m talking. Small things can trigger me when I’m angry, and I argue over silly things.
The advice I would give to myself is: write it all down, or write poems. Tell the person that made you angry about it, or talk to someone else. Remember, the emotion is valid.
When I’m angry it feels like a volcano and I can’t keep it in, it explodes. Because I know this, I try and keep my anger in.
The advice I would give to myself is: Your anger is valid and perfectly understandable. Don’t take it out on yourself, you didn’t do anything wrong. Find a way to communicate what you are angry about so that a solution can be found. Talk to someone who will understand.
Coping With Anger
Anger is a normal emotion and something we all feel. Sometimes though, you can feel angry and not know why, or find yourself getting angry a lot. If this is the case, it’s important you don’t ignore your anger, it might be trying to tell you that there are things going on that you need help with. Looking for the cause of your anger is the best way to start making sense of it.
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