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Believe in yourself

It’s common to suffer from low self-esteem at some point in your life, but you can do things to make it better. Help boost your wellbeing by trying these seven steps.

Self-esteem is how we see and feel about ourselves. Many people will have low self-esteem at some point in their lives.

It can be caused by a number of things - comparing yourself to your friends, problems with family, problems at school, or problems with your health. Sometimes it passes on its own, but you can take steps to help yourself feel better.

If you tackle low self-esteem early, it can help prevent depression or anxiety from developing. You can start to build your self-esteem today with these seven steps.

These feelings are temporary, you’re capable of doing whatever you set your mind to.

Step 1: Understand why you focus on negatives

  • What negative things do you think about yourself?
  • When did you start thinking these things?
  • What happened to make you think this way?

Step 2: Challenge the negative feelings

Ask yourself: Is there another way of looking at things? What advice would you give to a friend who was having similar negative feelings? Remind yourself of things that have happened which prove that these negative thoughts aren’t true. Maybe the thing that caused those feelings has stopped.

Try writing down a list of these things to keep and bring out next time you feel low.

Just because you hold these negative thoughts about yourself, it doesn’t mean they are true.
Write a letter to your future self, whether that be you in a year, or you in 5 years. When you read it, you will see how much has changed.
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Step 3: Focus on the positives

Write down your best feature, the last time you received a compliment, the last time you did something for someone that made you feel good. These might seem like small things, but it is important to recognise all the good things about you, and the reasons why people appreciate you for being who you are.

Talking to your 'inner child' can help you recognise the good things about yourself. Watch the video below to understand how this works: 

For another way to practise being kind to yourself, have a look t our #5YearOldSelfie campaign.

Be kind to yourself with #5YearOldSelfie

Step 4: Find the right people

How do the people around you make you feel?

Spend more time with the ones who make you feel good, and less with the ones who don't make you feel confident about yourself, or spend a lot of time criticising others.

There are so many things you can do. Find hobbies and passions that you enjoy. Try hanging out with people who make you feel better about yourself.
Jaik

Step 5: Get active

Think about doing something you enjoy – or trying something new. If you already have a hobby, do it more often. But remember, you don’t have to keep plugging away at a hobby you don’t enjoy, just because you think you have to.

Step 6: Set yourself some goals

Choose something you know you can already do and challenge yourself - but keep your goals realistic. Achievements can give you a positive feeling and remind you just how much you are capable of.

You are amazing, unique, and you have brilliant talents that no one else has.
Lotte

Step 7: Tell someone

If you’re really struggling with negative feelings about yourself, talk to someone you trust, like a family member, teacher or school nurse.

You can also talk to your GP who will be able to tell you what sort of support might be available to you in your area.

Tips from our Activists

Our Activists and other young people share their tips on what has helped them feel better about themselves:

"When I am struggling with my self-esteem, I will do something that I love and know that I’m good at. It might be painting or drawing - anything that allows me to express myself without fear of judgement from anyone."

"Listening to uplifting music and songs about self-love helps me when I’m feeling low." Abbey

"When I am struggling with low self-esteem, I look back at letters, cards or messages from friends and family to remind myself of the positive characteristics that they see in me." Eleanor

"I write down my worries and put them into a jar. I then go through them with someone every so often to see if they are still bothering me." Hannah

"Talking to friends and family. You don’t have to tell them how you’re feeling, but they can help you feel better about yourself. There are certain people that cheer me up just seeing them."Jaik

It’s not always easy talking to someone you know, or talking face to face. Below are some helplines and services you might find useful.

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger

Provides free, 24/7 text support for young people across the UK experiencing a mental health crisis.

All texts are answered by trained volunteers, with support from experienced clinical supervisors.

Texts are free from EE, O2, Vodafone, 3, Virgin Mobile, BT Mobile, GiffGaff, Tesco Mobile and Telecom Plus.

Texts can be anonymous, but if the volunteer believes you are at immediate risk of harm, they may share your details with people who can provide support.

Text: YM to 85258

Opening times: 24/7

Childline

If you’re under 19 you can confidentially call, chat online or email about any problem big or small.

Sign up for a free Childline locker (real name or email address not needed) to use their free 1-2-1 counsellor chat and email support service.

Can provide a BSL interpreter if you are deaf or hearing-impaired.

Hosts online message boards where you can share your experiences, have fun and get support from other young people in similar situations.

Phone: 0800 1111

Opening times: 9am - midnight, 365 days a year

The Mix

Offers support to anyone under 25 about anything that’s troubling them.

Email support available via their online contact form.

Free 1-2-1 webchat service available.

Free short-term counselling service available.

Phone: 0808 808 4994

Opening times: 4pm - 11pm, seven days a week

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