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Supporting Your Child With Eating Problems

If you're worried your child has an eating disorder, or unhealthy relationship with food, here is our advice and information on where you can get help.

How can I help my child?

Children’s attitudes to eating are affected by a range of factors including the attitudes and behaviours of parents and peers towards food, nutrition and body image, trauma, stress, and bullying. Appetites may change at different ages and this is normal; some eat a lot or eat anything, others are more particular. Younger children often refuse to eat certain foods and teenagers may try 'fad diets'. Most of us have tried out different eating habits or diets at some time in our lives, whether to lose or put on weight or to improve our health, and this is not necessarily a cause for concern.

Problems can start to emerge when a child or young person feels under pressure. They may lose their appetite; or they may turn to food for comfort and eat even when they are not hungry; their worries about food may be related to their size or body shape, or can be more about their emotions and self-esteem.

Young people’s problems with food can begin as a coping strategy for times when they are bored, anxious, angry, lonely, ashamed or sad. Food becomes a problem when it is used to help cope with painful situations or feelings, or to relieve stress, perhaps without even realising it. Children can fear getting fat and may perceive their body shape differently than those around them. It is useful to know that an eating problem is usually symptomatic and suggests there is an underlying problem that needs to be identified, understood and treated.

Young people with eating disorders often consider them to be a solution rather than a problem, making identification and treatment more difficult. They tend to have extreme concerns and sense of self-worth in terms of body shape and weight. If you're worried about your child there are things you can do to help. 

These are things that may really make a difference:

  1. Be aware that many young people may deny they have a problem. They may try to keep it a secret, and find it difficult to accept they need help.
  2. Go to the GP. Make notes about your main concerns ahead of the appointment. The GP will make an assessment and if they think your child needs specialist help, they should be able to refer the young person to a mental health professional specialising in this area.
  3. There are many different types of treatment, depending on the nature of the eating disorder and the symptoms. Treatment can includes dietary control as well as individual and family therapy, aimed at resolving underlying emotional problems.
  4. If the young person has lost a great deal of weight, or other help seems not to work, they may need to spend some time in hospital or a special unit, where treatment can be more closely monitored.
  5. Ask family and friends to help support a young person with an eating disorder, particularly by talking to them about their feelings and everyday problems.
  6. Young people unwilling to accept help from their parents may find it easier to talk to a teacher at school. 

More information and advice

Beat

Offers information and support for anybody affected by eating disorders, and for their families and carers.

One-to-one web chat available.

Enter your postcode in the HelpFinder to see what eating disorder support is available in your area.

Parents and carers in some parts of the UK can access peer mentoring, through which you can be supported by someone who's been through the same situation. 

Information on helpline accessibility and confidentiality available here.

Phone: 0808 801 0677 (helpline for anyone over 18)

Phone: 0808 801 0711 (youthline for anyone under 18)

Phone: 0808 801 0811 (studentline)

Email: [email protected] (for anyone over 18)

Email: [email protected] (for anyone under 18)

Email: [email protected] (for students)

Opening times: 365 days a year - weekdays (9am - 8pm); weekends (4pm - 8pm)

Anorexia and Bulimia Care

Offers support to anyone affected by eating disorders, and to their parents or carers. 

Hosts an online community for anybody supporting someone with an eating disorder.

If calling the helpline, you can select option two to get support and advice as a parent.

Email: [email protected] (support for individuals with an eating disorder)

Email: [email protected] (support for family and friends)

Phone: 03000 11 12 13 (9am - 1pm; 2pm - 5pm, Wednesday - Friday)

Opening times: 9:30am - 5pm, Tuesday - Friday

The Mix

Offers support to anyone under 25 about anything that’s troubling them.

Email support available via their online contact form.

Free 1-2-1 webchat service available.

Free short-term counselling service available.

Phone: 0808 808 4994

Opening times: 4pm - 11pm, seven days a week

Childline

If you’re under 19 you can confidentially call, chat online or email about any problem big or small.

Sign up for a free Childline locker (real name or email address not needed) to use their free 1-2-1 counsellor chat and email support service.

Can provide a BSL interpreter if you are deaf or hearing-impaired.

Hosts online message boards where you can share your experiences, have fun and get support from other young people in similar situations.

Phone: 0800 1111

Opening times: 9am - midnight, 365 days a year

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger

Provides free, 24/7 text support for young people across the UK experiencing a mental health crisis.

All texts are answered by trained volunteers, with support from experienced clinical supervisors.

Texts are free from EE, O2, Vodafone, 3, Virgin Mobile, BT Mobile, GiffGaff, Tesco Mobile and Telecom Plus.

Texts can be anonymous, but if the volunteer believes you are at immediate risk of harm, they may share your details with people who can provide support.

Text: YM to 85258

Opening times: 24/7

Youth Wellbeing Directory

Lists local services where you can find support for young people’s mental health and wellbeing.

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