What is self-harm?
Self-harm is when you hurt yourself on purpose. You usually do it because something else feels wrong. It seems like the only way to let those feelings out.
It is a very common behaviour in young people and affects around one in 12 people, with 10% of 15-16 year olds self-harming.
If you self-harm, it is usually as a result of another problem. It can happen if you are feeling anxious, depressed, stressed or bullied and feel you don’t have any other way of dealing with these issues.
Often self-harming brings only temporary relief. It can be upsetting when you think that self-harm is the only way you can cope, but there are other healthy ways you can cope.
Sometimes it feels like no one understands why you self-harm, but lots more people today know about what the condition really means.
What to do about self-harm?
Take the first step.
If you think you are affected by self-harm, talk to someone - a parent or relative you trust, perhaps a teacher or youth worker. If you don’t think you can confide in anyone, talk to your GP.
Why talk to your GP?
Self-harm can be a sign of other disorders that you need help with - such as depression or anxiety - and they can refer you to the right people for treatment. You may also be referred to Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) so you can have an assessment for the right treatment for you.
You may well need treatment quickly for injuries from self-harming. Any injuries you have should be treated straight away and not left because you harmed yourself.
Your GP may be able to treat the injuries themself or may refer you to hospital where you will be treated by a doctor or nurse trained to work with children and young people who self-harm.
Charlotte’s blog: My story of self-harm recovery
I was only 14 when I started to self-harm. I was never intending to hurt myself. I was doing it for the sense of relief it provided. I felt like the only way I could function and leave my room was if I had that release.
One day my father walked in on me when I was self-harming. I thought, “This is it, I am in so much trouble and I’ll be grounded.” On another level I felt so worried about upsetting my father, he meant so much to me. To my surprise he just sat next to me, calmed me down and told me to be safe. He then got me scar oil in case I wanted it – which was so thoughtful.
I am now 22 and haven’t self-harmed for over a year. So, how did I recover from self-harm?
- I talk to people - because I know that there is no shame in my feelings or my past.
- I never overwhelm myself and take one day at a time - knowing your limits is important.
Looking back, for a long time I had suffered alone and didn't realise I could ask for help. So my message to you would be: don’t let fear prevent you from getting the support you deserve.
To continue reading Charlotte’s blog visit ‘My story of self-harm recovery.’
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