Three Things I’d Tell My Younger Self
What advice would you give your younger self? Thinking of three things you would tell your younger self is a great way of recognising how far you've come and building self-esteem - as Laura shares.
What advice would you give your younger self?
We all learn some valuable life lessons whilst growing up. Some of these lessons you learn by going through difficult experiences, which develop your character and make you stronger. I’ve found that thinking about what advice you would give your younger self is a great way to help you reflect on all the progress you have made.
Here’s the advice that I would personally give my younger self…
Remember who you are
When you’re younger, it can be easy to get swept up in the latest trends and for me, I very much tried to please the people around me all the time. If I could speak to my younger self now, I would be sure to tell her that it’s impossible to please everybody and that I am enough. Growing up has enabled me to become confident and content with the person that I am. I’d love to tell my younger self to be proud of who she is and not to change herself just because others are different to her.
Try not to care so much about what people think
I think that when you’re younger, you care too much about what others think of you – I remember that if somebody was negative towards me I would question myself and try to change my behaviour to please them, but this shouldn’t have to be the case. As you mature, you realise that some people are just not going to like you for whatever reason and that’s okay – as long as you’re happy with your decisions and who you are then it doesn’t matter what others think. I would tell my younger self to focus on the people who love her, and I’d tell her that the negative people are just projecting their own insecurities – that is their own problem to deal with and it has nothing to do with me.
Understand that everything happens for a reason
As we go through life, both good and bad things happen – I would love to tell my younger self to not overthink the bad situations too much as I believe everything truly does happen for a reason. As I’ve grown up, I can see that even the worst situation has a lesson to be learnt from and without these negative experiences, we would be unable to appreciate the positive ones. I think that when you’re younger you can catastrophise a lot of situations (something that I’m still working on now). I would tell my younger self to try and see the positives and think about practical and logical ways you can approach a situation.
These are just a few of the lessons that I would love to tell my younger self – I encourage anybody reading to note down some advice that they would give to their younger selves. The benefits of doing this is that we can all see the progress that we have made. It’s evidence to show that we will become stronger as each day passes.
Author: Laura, 20
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